Wednesday, April 11, 2007

I’m surrounded by them!

The big boss is one, the head of technical writing services is another, as are most of her team. I’m talking about sexual deviants. You know, poofs and dykes.

Although I already have my own personal faghag in the office, no one else 'knew' about me in the office until Sunday when I bumped into the big boss at the Amstel Tavern. He didn’t seem surprised to see me there but if he did wonder if I was a fellow deviant on my entering the place, I’m sure it didn’t take him long to be sure of my credentials as a card-carrying poof. It was one of those nights where the last few hours of it no longer exist. I even lost an item of clothing, my coat, à la 'my favourite jumper'.

I saw him today. He approached me with a huge grin on his face. My grin was probably of the sheepish variety. Apparently, I didn’t do anything too embarrassing although I was seen gyrating oddly. Standing up and on the dance floor, I hasten to add.

Unlike my jumper, my coat hadn’t been kidnapped by an undesirable. I retrieved it last night after my Dutch class.

I’ll probably discover a whole lot more of the fraternity when I attend the monthly GALA get-together at Café Rouge tomorrow evening. My faghag discovered its existence today and emailed me about it. Now I'm their newest member.

For an organisation that tries to be 'inclusive', even allowing hetties to become members, it doesn’t have such an inclusive name. Obviously, GLBTA doesn’t have quite the same ring to it as GALA does, but what about all the B’s and T’s in the organisation?

16 Comments:

Blogger Qenny said...

I sometimes wonder whether it's a bit misguided to think that the Bs and Ts have the same interests and concerns as the Ls and the Gs. One T I know is quite happy to describe herself as "what's known as gay-friendly", but hasn't the least sense of kinship or community with Ls, Gs or Bs. Another T I know is quite the opposite, describing the LGBT community as her whanau (a Maori concept meaning an extended family group).

And most Bs I know are quite happy forging their own communities and identities which overlap with those of the Ls and Gs, as well as those of the mainstream, whilst maintaining an interesting and quite distinct energy and purpose.

The LGBT label always struck me as a bit "everyone but them straight folks".

5:12 pm  
Blogger andrea said...

I hate to shove home the stereotype but it *is* Amsterdam after all! :) In true stereotypical fashion, all the LGBTs I've ever known live or have lived in Vancouver's infamous West End.

2:50 am  
Anonymous chitty said...

And here I thought a GALA was a lavish social event or entertainment or a swimming competition.
*skulks away*

8:00 am  
Blogger Caroline said...

Um... I'm totally lost here in your letters...

8:42 am  
Blogger Reluctant Nomad said...

Qenny: I agree with you. In fact, the GL label sometimes seems a bit false when you consider the way that some gay men talk about lesbians. Vice versa too. But, despite that, it’s a meaningful one that serves a useful purpose. The LGBT label has its uses too but its limitations are apparent by the situations you describe. In this world which favours the norm and tends to think in black and white, it’s a term that is more readily accepted than having a plethora of smaller pressure groups.

andrea: You’re right of course. LGBT types do tend to gravitate towards certain areas like Amsterdam, Vancouver’s West End and Cape Town’s Green point. A statement that is strengthened by the fact that the big boss is an American and the head of technical services a Brit.

We’re like bees round a honey pot!!

chitty: I did too!

But, now you mention lavish social events and swimming competitions, I can see gay guys congregating at such events. ;-)

Caroline: T=Transgendered; B=Bisexual. Where have you been all this time? Bristol? :-)

9:04 am  
Blogger Caroline said...

I just have an over active imagination and can think of far too many things that these letters all stand for... and I never was happy with the TLA culture even when I was an active part of it... I can't remember the name of my new camera because its some strange permutation of numbers and letters... maybe thinning it down to single letters will help but let me guess

G = Gentlemen and L = Ladies?

:-)

And word veri says

vhotbxd

10:22 am  
Blogger Klara said...

Meanings..Meanings and More Meanings!
BTW! U have agreat Blog!

11:53 am  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Have you chatted to your son? What's happening with him??

1:44 pm  
Blogger J. David Zacko-Smith said...

Poofs and dykes - oh my!

8:51 pm  
Blogger Gay banker said...

Sorry I got the details about you wrong in the comment I made on GIL's blog recently.

GB xxx

PS: actually I was in Amsterdam last Wednesday so I thought about you. I was only in the country for 5 hours though, just a quick client visit.

10:47 pm  
Blogger angel said...

hey nomad!
i am still laptopless but it looks like i'm back!
you know- i have no idea if anyone i work with (client-wise) is gay... its still a case of no-one "owning up to it" (for lack of a better phrase) in this wonderfully free country of ours. very weird! i'm not saying wear a sign or something- but the rumours around the watercooler drive me up the wall!

6:18 am  
Anonymous buddess said...

Someone very near to me and very much loved by everyone around him recently confessed his preference to his mother who was totally distraught by it. She needed to tell someone because she couldn't carry it alone anymore and she chose to tell me. His brothers and sister or dad hasn't been informed yet. She couldn't understand that I wasn't shocked by it. It doesn't change him as a person. He is still the same guy and I don't love him any less. They are a very religious family and this is a very big "wrong" in their belief.

8:55 am  
Blogger Terri said...

So no stalker-like messages on your phone this time? Things are looking up :)

And on a completely different note I must just say I haven't been here in a while and have really enjoyed catching up. Your blog never fails to entertain!

1:54 pm  
Blogger Ariel said...

Oh bless! You are ever so democratically-minded...

12:38 pm  
Blogger Reluctant Nomad said...

Caroline: TLA culture?

Klara: Thanks. Come visit again.

Anonymous: Not yet. He’s busy having lots of fun in Amsterdam and sort of working.

J. David Zacko-Smith: Scandalous, I know!

Gay banker: No need to apologise. If your next visit is a longer one, let me know.

angel: It will good to have you properly back. That’s why you have water-coolers – gossip and incubating affairs.

buddess: Sounds like it will be a bit of a tough time for him and his family in the next few months but things often turn out fine for everyone once everyone looks past the ‘wrongness’ of it.

Terri: No stalkers, thank God! Glad to know I entertain. I have to get on to that thinking meme soon.

Ariel: It’s a bluff.

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