Friday, June 30, 2006

Ghana: Thirty-five no more

Yesterday, I had a reader push my Ghana flag counter up to 36. It’s the first time it’s moved since Felicitas died in February. About 6 weeks ago, BlogFrog, had this to say:

Since I first read the story of Felicitas, I've regularly been looking at the same thing on your flag board and I've been kind of hoping that some mysterious reader from Ghana would appear in order to make figures change and enable you to forget this sad story. But I guess, Felicitas is still a reader somehow, by seeing the number stay on 35 is a way to show that she's still around, if you see what I mean.

Well, unless it’s her ghost, my mysterious reader from Ghana has eventually arrived. The counter has moved on. But, although no longer stuck on 35, I’ll continue to watch that counter with a rather unhealthy interest.

7 Comments:

Anonymous xmichra said...

that is always going to remind you though, regardless of the movement. How could it not??

1:43 pm  
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2:13 pm  
Blogger Babsbitchin said...

Wow Nomad, that was totally engaging. I have dealt with a few suicides in my life, not many but they are devastaing. Must we treat each person as if it's the last time we may see them? Yes and no. We can't walk around oblivious to others possible needs, ie hearing us sayI love you instead of assuming it or telling someone,"Hey, I really enjoy your company." We must communicate and not be so self absorbed, assuming that people know how we feel. Since they can't read our minds, we must convey our feelings. You can't walk on eggshells and someone who wants to kill themselves, really, usually doesn't tell anyone, true intent for they may be stopped.
Regardless, this happened and I'm sorry you had to go what you went through. I truly mean that!!Kisses to make it better!

10:09 pm  
Blogger angel said...

it's very sad about felicitas- maybe someone's using her PC or laptop... or has found the machine she used in a cafe and likes her "history"!

10:45 am  
Blogger Paul said...

Hi Nomad,

I wasn't really aware of the whole situation with Felicitas when it happened, so firstly apologies for not adding any comments at the time!

Obviously, when someone says something, or does something, as significant as that, it's effects last for a long while... sometimes for ever. So I was wondering how you're feeling now about her last words to you?

Has the benefit of time and hindsight given you a different way of thinking, or have the words of fellow bloggers proved the biggest help?

Paul x

4:45 pm  
Blogger Emmanuel.K.Bensah II said...

Hi Nomad--or should that be Alan? I am sorry for you to have dealt with Felicitas case like that? I blogged about the death of a friend on my blog in May (http://ekbensahinghana.blogspot.com/2006/06/as-week-draws-to-close-in-accra.html , who just died a few days after I had spoken with her.

But to have someone tell you that they are killing themseklves must be spine-chilling; I am really sorry about that.

The reader from Ghana is me! I suppose it is 'cos I was there last week, around the time yoo were talking about, and made a note of checking out zoomclouds.com, but my computer went and jammed on me...

I put my hands up!:-)

thanks for your thoughtful post. cheers!

3:16 pm  
Blogger Reluctant Nomad said...

Xmichra: You’re quite right, of course.

Babs O'Bitchin :You know what, behind that loud, brash, bitchy exterior, there is a very thoughtful and wise person lurking behind it. :-) Oops, let me run now…..Thanks for the kind words.

angel : the mystery has been revealed as the person has commented below.

Paul : I’ve got used to what she said and take them as being the comments of a very troubled person so have made peace with them. And, as you imply, comments from other bloggers did help.

Emmanuel.K.Bensah II : Thanks for popping by and revealing yourself as a real person from Ghana whereas Felicitas only appeared to be from there. And thanks for the kind words. I’ll be off to see your blog soon.

4:34 pm  

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