What makes a Fag-Hag?
In a comment to my previous post, Terri asks, 'So does being a Fag-Hag qualify as 'hobbies and interests' d'you suppose?' Of course it doesn't, it's a full-time occupation! Or, rather, vocation.
To support that statement, I thought I'd have a look at MissMish's (aka Drama Queen, Fag-Hag, JAP) blog, my favourite, truth be told, only fag-hag, for some pointers on what it is that makes a true fag-hag. Unfortunately, while I found her list on 'How to be a Drama Queen', I couldn't find a similar list on what makes a fag-hag. I had to look elsewhere.
As always, Google came to the rescue.
Just in case any of you aren't familiar with the term, here's one of the definitions, my favourite, taken from the Urban Dictionary:
This is a woman who prefers the company of gay men because she recognizes their effervesence, incisive wit, and sheer brilliance regarding the human condition. This woman appreciates the fact that gay men know how to drill down to the bittersweet core of an issue and make light of it where necessary, and simultaneously make dark humor of it where otherwise necessary. It is a gift that comes from being an outsider: rather than lying down and taking a beating, as some do, the exaulted gay man rises from the ashes and finds the ridiculous glory in being an outsider. In this endeavor, he seeks the company of a woman, and she of him...because regardless of intentions, women and men enjoy the company of those who feel "right" to each other.
No surprise why I chose that as my favourite!
It may interest you to know that 'Fag-Hag' has a number of synonyms, one of which, 'flame dame', has only recently been discovered by MissMish. Here are a few more: fruit fly, sissy missy, fairy godmother, gay goddess, princess with a pink wand, ribbon clerk, queer dear.
There's a lot of stuff out there discussing fag-hags and what makes them tick but here's one of the best pieces that concludes with this paragraph:
'In researching this topic it would be easy to critique fag hags as psychologically looking for things they can't have; mascochistic in a sense that they look for rejection. It would be easy to simplify the facts as a response to gay men being "woman-like" and therefore associating with women. It would be easy to criticize the choice. But I find that being a Fag Hag is nothing to be ashamed of. It is a way of life. It is finding one's self through whoever you feel connected to, and if they happen to be gay men, so be it. When I first was labeled "Fag Hag" I was ashamed. But it is nothing to be ashamed of. I am proud to be a Fag Hag.'
I also discovered that fag-hags exist in the world of comics. In this piece written byUltrasparky, he proves that Wonder Woman is a classic fag-hag:
'Wouldn't you want to lure her into your web of fabulousness and make her your new best friend? Seriously — everyone knows what Thomas is up to when he goes for those "walks" down by the piers, so why shouldn't you find yourself some sassy lassy to gossip with when you go for a cocktail? Those other queens will be so jealous they'll scratch your eyes out when you waltz into Studio 54 with this glamazon on your arm! If only she weren't always disappearing when you least expect it.'
By now you'll have a good idea of what makes a fag-hag so you may be interested in knowing if you qualify. Take this test and let me know how you fare.
I scored a paltry 53% but I'm a fag, not a fag-hag.