Thursday, January 19, 2006

The last year of school

alan and the kidsThat little boy on the left was five when that picture was taken. He started his last year of high school yesterday.

I wasn't there.

It depresses me.

21 Comments:

Blogger JP said...

Seeing as you're depressed already...where did the cute guy on the right go?

*GRIN*

2:08 pm  
Blogger Reluctant Nomad said...

He got 15 years older while turning into a drinking, drugging and fag-smoking sex addict.

3:25 pm  
Blogger Reluctant Nomad said...

Correction: 12-13 years older

3:28 pm  
Blogger mike said...

My my, you were rocking the Sexy Dad look there, Mr. Nomad!

4:21 pm  
Blogger andrea said...

Wow. I have a neighbour who looks really similar to you (which is pretty darned good) and has two little red-headed boys! Is the one in your arms a girl or a boy?

4:49 pm  
Blogger Reluctant Nomad said...

Mike: am I no longer the sexy dad?

Andrea: she's a girl

5:55 pm  
Blogger Frog with a Blog said...

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9:59 pm  
Blogger Frog with a Blog said...

Hi handsome dad! as usual i have a few follow up questions (please delete if that becomes annoying): You say that you can't get a good job in SA but is there no way your family could move to England with you for some time? or maybe the wife can't get a decent job in England?... But it sounds like something should be done soon, you're writing more and more about how you miss your kids and it's totally understandable. You can't be away from your kids for so long!! Last questions: how often do you get to see them? And when are you going to see them next? Inspector Mickelino is now done with his questions.God I'm nosey! (I'm actually interested, i mean it)

10:05 pm  
Blogger xmichra said...

no matter how near or far, watching your child grow up into an independat person is always hard. You see less of that little person you helped mold.. and more of the great work of art they are.

My daughter is only two, so I am not speaking of vast experience here.. but I can hear her speak 'our' language and do things for herself. She is so much a little girl t makes me sad not to see the dependant anymore.

I know you miss your children from the distance between you.. and I have nothing encouraging to say on that front (sorry). But, I think you would agree that you can miss them just as much and sit right next to them.

I am sure he misses you too. Give him a call, let him tel you of his last first day of high school! I am possitive you will feel more delight in his growth then dissapointment in your absence.

10:50 pm  
Blogger rhino75 said...

Wise words from Xmichra.

12:17 am  
Blogger kyknoord said...

Oh man, that's harsh.

6:23 am  
Blogger LiVEwiRe said...

Some things about life just don't seem quite right sometimes, do they? I'm sorry you are in this situation.

6:50 am  
Blogger Rob7534 said...

I'm heartbroken for you Nomad, perhaps one day you will be reunited! One day soon.

7:02 am  
Blogger BUDDESS said...

Two words - COME HOME!!! Another scary fact, he only has about 120 actual school days left. Follow your heart here Nomad.

7:46 am  
Blogger Reluctant Nomad said...

Thanks for all the sympathetic words, everyone.

Let me answer some questions and make comments. Will amalgamate them:

The working away from home started because I couldn't get decent work there and I never expected it to last as long as it has. Still no immediate end in sight. So it is still thought of as a temporary thing so moving the family here when that is the reason was never part of the equation. Also, I know my wife wouldn't move here and I don't think the kids would want to. My son has talked of spending part of his gap year with me next year if I'm still here. Now that would curb my 'activities', wouldn't it? :-) As my wife has just finisheed a 3 yr university degree and will be carrying on studying/working this year without income, I'm the only breadwinner right now so someone has to support them in the lives they are accustomed to. If I didn't have those responsibilities I'd be happy returning to any old crappy job to be there rather than earning good money here.

At the moment, I tend to see them about twice a year, sometimes just for a few weeks at a time, sometimes for a few months. The last time I saw them was in July in UK and France, before that was in Dec - Feb in S Africa. I should be back for a few weeks in late Feb or March this year.

I used to ring them at least once a week but that has got less frequent because sometimes it feels better to miss them and not talk to them as that makes me miss them more. Silly, I know. But I will be ringing them today or this weekend to find out how the first week at school was.

I hope I answered most of those questions. However, if you have more, ask!

Lastly, xmichra: wise words indeed! :-)

10:40 am  
Blogger Slightly said...

*hugs*

12:39 pm  
Blogger The Persian said...

what a beautiful photo, I'm sorry about your son. I have two boys so I can imagine what your feeling.

5:19 pm  
Blogger xmichra said...

wow.. wisdom is reviered in my parts..hehe!

I just wanted to give you an internet hug.. It's tough being a parent somedays, and we all need a little support.. no matter where it comes from :)

10:47 pm  
Blogger Guyana-Gyal said...

A lot of families in this part of the world had to be broken like this. Father or mother gone overseas to work and send money.

What Xmichra says is true, write letters, postcards, send emails, chat on the phone. Keep in touch, talk talk talk.

I understand how that feels to a certain extent, I can't see my nephews and neice as I'd like to, they all live in abroad.

Phewww what a handsome dad.

10:41 am  
Blogger jjd said...

I read your answer I'm sorry things have worked out like this for you. On a completely unrelated note: you're one HOT H.O.T.T.I.E in that pic. yumma

11:55 pm  
Blogger Reluctant Nomad said...

If I hadn't forgotten how to blush, I'd be blushing at all the compliments! :-)

11:59 pm  

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